A common saying among single women is, “I can’t get a guy!” The truth of the matter is you can get a guy and pretty much any guy if you take the right steps.
The only thing that does need to exist is a bit of physical attraction. If the guy is even slightly attracted to you and you take those right steps then he will be all yours. The following are tips on how to get a guy.
Identify and evaluate the guy of interest. If you want to get a guy the first thing needed is to identify who it will be. Once you have identified the guy think about if he is worth pursuing.
Ask yourself other than looks what are the qualities that you like about him. Also think about what are some qualities that you don’t like about him.
For example, a guy can be cute but every other word he spits out is a cuss word. Unless you’re up for cussing all day long this is not a guy worth spending a minute on. For a situation where you have never met the guy ask yourself these questions soon after you interact with him.
Be visible. You can’t get a guy if he can’t see you. Make the effort to be in his presence. Take part in his activity. For example, if you see a guy you like who always plays volleyball see how you can join in. If there is a guy at the bar that seems interesting stand close to his presence.
Strike up a conversation. To get a guy you might be the one who will have to strike up the conversation. Think about what he is doing. Ask questions about what he is doing.
For example, if he is reading a book about finances you can ask him if that’s a good book. You can take it further to get him talking about the book.
You can comment about something in the surrounding environment to start up a conversation. For example, you can ask, “What type of a bird is on that tree?” or “It’s a nice day and I enjoy hiking.
Do you know of some great hiking places?” Be creative and think of something that would help a conversation to start and even continue. Remember you want to get a guy by making some sort of a connection.
Always dress your best. Men are visual beings. How you dress will have an impact on your ability to get a guy. Wear something flirtatious and fun. Wear something sweet and innocent yet sexy. This will get a guy interested in you.
Speak with words of sex appeal. This one is a little bit more difficult to explain so try your best to grasp the idea. Your words, pronunciation and tone of voice all need to have sex appeal.
How you do this is by getting in touch with the sexy side of you. Once you are in tune with the sexy side of you speaking with appeal should be easy. The guy will be unconsciously aware of what you’re doing but will be lured towards your presence.
Make feminine gestures. You can get a guy by turning him on. A great way to turn a guy on is by making feminine gestures. For example, brush your hair back, give him a wink, stretch your back, rub your neck and anything else you can think of that would extenuate the feminine side of you.
Make an invite. After you have made a connection see if he is interested in doing something with you. That something could reflect back to what was talked about in the conversation.
For example, if he shared places to go hiking then ask him if he would like come with you. You can get a guy easily if you initiate an opportunity to continue the connection. Majority of guys will want to continue especially if the interaction has been positive.
Put your best foot forward. You get a guy to go out with you but if you want a long term relationship it’s essential to put your best foot forward at all times.
That means continue the positive interaction. Continue applying the tips I mentioned above. Continue to make yourself marketable. Read my article “How to Get a Man to Love You” for additional tips. This will help take the relationship to a deeper level and secure the guy you get.
Tips for Finding the Right Man for You
If you are single and searching for the man of your dreams then these tips will help you thin out the herd.
Tip #1 – Determine What Personality Type Is Right for You
Each man has his own personality. The personality may be introverted, it may be extroverted, it may be passionate or it may be passive. The key to finding a man that you will be compatible with is finding a man that has a personality that will compliment yours.
For example, if you are very introverted then a man that is slightly more outgoing may be a good compliment to you, however, if he is to outgoing his personality may overwhelm you.
Tip #2 – Take a Look at Your Lifestyle
One reason that many relationships fail is because lifestyles don’t mesh. For example, one person may be interested in spending a lot of time partying while the other is more interested in focusing on career development.
When searching for a man to date or marry you need to find one that has a lifestyle that you would be comfortable with. For example, if you enjoy spending time outside hiking and camping then you will want to find a man that likes to spend time outdoors doing these things too.
Tip #3 – Compare Stages of Life
If you want to find a man who is ready for the type of relationship that you are interested in then you need to find one that is at the same place in his life as you are.
For example, if you are ready to settle down and get married then you need to find a man who is also ready for these things to. On the other hand, if you are only interested in dating and having fun right now, then you are not going to find happiness with a man that is ready to settle down.
Tip #4 – Similar Life Goals
Having similar life goals is also important when searching for the perfect man. If you want to have a family and raise chickens on a farm, then you are not going to find happiness with someone that wants to live in the city and who doesn’t want to have children.
It is because of this that you will want to identify life goals early in your relationship with someone so that you don’t waste each other’s time.
Tip #5 – Make a Physical Connection
While looks may not be the most important thing in a relationship they do matter. To be happy with your partner you have to be attracted to them physically, at least to a certain degree.
However, don’t count someone out too soon based on their looks. If you match up in the other areas of compatibility then give the physical attraction aspect of your relationship at least a month.
After a month if you still just aren’t physically attracted to him then it is time to determine if you want to continue the relationship or not.