If you are reading this, it’s very likely that you have had at least some trouble in the man-attracting business. Attracting men is a breeze for some women, and not all of them are pretty and built perfectly, or have a winning personality.
And then there are those gorgeous women who can’t find a man, right along with their not-as-lovely sisters.
So why is it easy for some women, and not so easy for others? Is there really a secret to attracting men?
Yes. There is.
There is one single thing that some women have that others lack. Self-confidence. It’s really all there is. If you don’t think you can attract men, you won’t. It’s all in your mind.
Women who attract men know they can, and don’t worry about it. They are in the mindset that “there are plenty of good fish in the sea” and that their’s will show up when the time is right.
Women who don’t attract men think in the complete opposite direction. “No man is ever going to want me”, or “all the good guys are taken”.
What you think is what you get. You set yourself up for failure when you think that way.
Here are some things to think about when trying to attract men.
Don’t “try” to attract men. They will know you’re trying, and it makes you look desperate and needy. Of course, dress and act in a manner that is attractive, but don’t actively “look” for a man. Socialize and be out in places where the type of man you are interested in might be. But just be yourself.
Do things that make you happy, whatever that may be. Maybe you like to go out to art galleries with a few girlfriends, or bowling, or a charity function.
Stay away from bars and dating sites, and blind dates set up by your friends. These things mean you’re “looking”.
How you portray yourself is important in attracting a man. Dress like a slut, and you’ll end up attracting guys who like girls who dress like sluts. (Of course, that’s ok if that’s your thing. To each her own.)
You can be sexy without looking easy. Sleek and polished yet sexy is easily doable for almost any sized girl. You don’t need a perfect body or a lot of money to dress well.
Make an effort to always look good when you leave the house. You never know where you might meet your soul mate. You don’t have to dress up to go to the store, but you can dress NICE, and not just throw on a pair of sweats because it’s easy.
Caring about how you look is not only important just for the sake of looking good. When you dress nice, you FEEL better about yourself. Your self-confidence improves, and that’s what it’s really about
Be interesting. Having a life makes you interesting. Have hobbies. Paint. Write stories. Play golf. Backpack through foreign countries, A person who’s passionate about life is an interesting person.
People who have passions and unique interests are mysterious. It makes people want to get to know you. Passion shows through in a good way.
However, don’t make yourself the center of attention either, or develop an ego. There’s nothing worse than meeting someone who constantly talks about themselves. That will have the complete opposite effect of what you’re trying to accomplish.
Tips to Get The Guy You Want
Is there a certain man that you’ve had your eye on? Are you having a bit of a problem getting him to notice you? If so, then there are some things that you can do to make sure that he notices you the next time you walk into the room.
First, you have got to have a look that is going to draw his attention to you. You aren’t going to get him to notice you by wearing some baggy jeans and a T-Shirt. You don’t want to dress like a stripper either, unless all you want him to notice you for is an easy lay.
If all you want out of it is a one night stand, then go ahead and dress like you are easy. Otherwise, dress in some form fitting clothes that are attractive and sexy, yet classy.
Take the time to put on make up. You don’t want to look like you had your face painted at the local carnival, but you will want to accentuate your beauty with the right amount of make up.
Have your nails manicured and painted. Wear a little bit of jewelry as an accent to the outfit you are wearing. Don’t wear too much jewelry, this leads many men to think that you are just after money.
Many men today will not ask a woman out if they fear that there is the slight possibility that she will say no. So, while it’s true that men like a woman that plays hard to get, they also don’t want a woman that appears impossible to get.
For this reason, you want to flirt with him. Don’t over do it, you want to be subtle but still get the point across. Don’t flirt with every man in the room trying to get him to notice how many other men want you, this is a turn off.
A man wants a woman that he feels he is lucky to have caught, not a woman that he feels any man in the room could have.
Make eye contact and be confident in your conversation with him. True flirting is not acting like a ditzy little girl.
Don’t be uptight, laugh at his jokes and tell a few of your own. Smile every now and then, you want to be warm and friendly, the last thing you want to do is appear like an ice queen.
Do the confident hair toss every now and then.
Touch his arm once or twice while you are talking to him.
Talk to him about things that the two of you have in common. Don’t dominate the conversation while you are talking. Ask him questions and be genuinely interested in what he has to say.
Don’t play games. If he asks you out then say yes, don’t put him off and get stuck in the “I’ll check my calendar” game.